How to Hypnotize People: A Step-by-Step Guide

Surpanakha Chronicles: The Conductor’s Discord

In a grand city famous for its symphonies, a celebrated musician named Rayan held court. His music, born from pure intention, resonated deeply, drawing audiences into blissful absorption.

Among his many admirers was Surpanakha. Her heart, though outwardly mesmerized, craved not the music itself, but the power Rayan held over his audience. His calm focus and graceful art infuriated her, as these were qualities she lacked.

Surpanakha, used to illusions, was captivated by Rayan’s genuine magnetism. She wanted him, not for love, but to possess his influence, to turn his harmonious stage into her own discordant pedestal.

She approached him, her voice a practiced melody. “Maestro,” she purred, “your brilliance outshines even the stars. To be near such a genius is a privilege.” Her flattery was a careful score, each note chosen to ensnare.

But Rayan, attuned to truth, heard the dissonant chord. His music was his truth, and he sensed the artifice. Her gaze lingered too long, her compliments felt like a performance. He politely acknowledged her, but his spirit remained unswayed.

Rejection ignited Surpanakha’s fury.

She ran to her mother Kaikasi—the veteran seductress. Kaikasi was not new to this game. She had previously trapped a naive gentleman and coaxed him into tying nuptial knots, which eventually perished. She reaped what she sowed. But this time she was determined to take a second chance, more precise, more accurate.

She iterated, “If flattery fails, force will prevail."

Kaikasi unleashed her dark arts.

First, she hired shadows—detectives to dig into Rayan’s past, hackers to infiltrate his digital world, seeking any blemish.

When that yielded nothing, she escalated.

Threats arrived subtly at first, then more overtly, aimed at his loved ones, his livelihood.

She attempted to manipulate those closest to him, whispering doubts, planting seeds of mistrust. She spread rumors, alienated his patrons, painted him as arrogant and aloof. Her whispers sought to dismantle the very harmony he embodied.

For a time, her schemes seemed to work. The initial buzz around Rayan lessened. Some patrons distanced themselves, swayed by the fabricated stories. The air around him, once vibrant with admiration, grew heavy with suspicion.

But Rayan, like his music, possessed an unshakeable core. He continued to create, to share, to resonate with truth. He met the whispers with continued authenticity, the threats with quiet dignity. He understood that true influence came not from force, but from being genuinely aligned with integrity.

Then, one evening, during a pivotal concert, as Rayan prepared to conduct his grandest piece, the truth burst forth. A former associate of Surpanakha, burdened by guilt, exposed her entire deceitful orchestration. The detectives' reports, the hackers' logs, the witnesses to her manipulations—all laid bare.

The symphony hall, once echoing with the deceptive hum of her whispers, fell into stunned silence. The intricate web of her lies, woven with such cunning, unraveled instantly.

Her manipulations, her witchcraft, once so potent, fell to pieces like a shattered instrument. The audience, now seeing the true conductor of discord, turned away. Her power, built on illusion, vanished like a fading echo.

Just like Surpanakha’s discordant attempts to control Rayan, the idea of “hypnotizing people” often conjures images of manipulation and mind control. These ideas create fear and misunderstanding, steering us away from the true art of influence.

Introduction

The title might surprise you. When most people hear “hypnotizing others,” they think of stage shows or mind control. But real hypnosis is the opposite of manipulation—it’s about becoming so genuinely attractive that others naturally want to be around you.

Here’s the secret: you can only truly “hypnotize” yourself.

The Historical Foundation

Hypnosis isn’t a modern invention. Ancient texts describe similar practices thousands of years ago. These traditions understood something we’re only now rediscovering through neuroscience. The Greeks called it ‘Hypnos’ - the same root word we use today.

Indian Psychology’s Understanding of Mental States

Ancient Indian psychology describes three states evident in human mental activity:

Jagrati (wakefulness) - your normal conscious state where the mind perceives directly through the senses. This is everyday awareness where most people spend their time.

Smriti (memory) - accessing knowledge accumulated over lifetimes. This includes both personal memories and deeper, intuitive knowing that seems to come from beyond individual experience.

Dhriti (steadfastness) - a subtle mental state where thought transmission becomes possible. In this state, one person can become aware of another’s mental condition and circumstances. This is where true influence happens naturally.

Modern Research Confirmations

Modern research confirms what these ancient practices described. Real changes happen in your brain and nervous system during hypnotic states.

Dr. Herbert Spiegel at Columbia University conducted extensive hypnosis research. He concluded that therapeutic success depends on the practitioner’s skill and pure intention. The primary task is to induce a deeply relaxed state while keeping the mind alert and receptive.

Dr. Griffith William at Rutgers University, in his book “Experimental Hypnosis," explained why people become entranced during religious festivals, storytelling sessions, or beautiful music.

Your life-consciousness gets drawn toward something specific and desired. This creates what he called ‘Somnambulism’ - a natural trance state.

Understanding Brain States

William described different levels of consciousness:

Hypnagogic - the state when falling asleep, where conscious control relaxes and the subconscious becomes more accessible.

Hypnopompic - the waking state, where normal awareness returns but often with enhanced clarity and insight.

Hypnoidal Trance - the mixed form of both states, where conscious and unconscious minds work together harmoniously.

Krishnamurti called this 'choiceless awareness' - a state where you’re uncertain what to do or not do, completely open to possibility. This is when the mind becomes most receptive to positive transformation.

The Psychology of Natural Hypnotic States

You enter hypnotic states multiple times daily without realizing it. These natural trances show how your mind works when defenses are down and receptivity is high.

When you’re completely absorbed in a good book, the outside world disappears. You’re not consciously choosing to ignore distractions. Your focused attention creates a natural trance state where the story becomes your reality.

During your daily commute, you sometimes arrive home without remembering the journey. Your unconscious mind handled the driving while your conscious mind was elsewhere. This is highway hypnosis - a completely normal and safe altered state.

Beautiful music can entrance you so completely that time seems to stop. Your analytical mind quiets down. Emotional and spiritual centers activate. This is why music has been used in healing and spiritual practices for thousands of years.

Religious experiences often involve natural hypnotic states. Group singing, prayer, or meditation creates shared consciousness where individuals feel connected to something larger than themselves.

How the Brain Works During Hypnosis

During hypnotic states, specific changes occur in your nervous system. Understanding these changes helps you recognize and create conditions for positive influence.

The parasympathetic nervous system activates. This is your “rest and digest” mode. Heart rate slows. Breathing deepens. Stress hormones decrease. Muscle tension releases. In this state, people feel safe and open to new ideas.

Brain scans show that the default mode network becomes less active during hypnosis. This network controls self-criticism, worry, and mental chatter. When it quiets down, space opens for peace, creativity, and positive suggestion.

The conscious mind, which normally filters and judges everything, steps back. The subconscious mind, which controls habits, emotions, and automatic responses, becomes more accessible. This is why positive suggestions given during relaxed states can create lasting change.

Critical thinking doesn’t disappear during hypnosis. People don’t become mindless robots. Instead, they become more receptive to ideas that serve their highest good while maintaining the ability to reject harmful suggestions.

The Philosophy of True Influence: Why Control-Based Methods Fail

Many people want to learn influence for selfish reasons. They imagine having power over others for personal gain. This approach always fails in the long run, and here’s why.

The Reality of Free Will

Every living being has independent rights. Humans have the freedom to shape their own futures. No person can be bound by anything other than their own known or unknown desires. Our desires can be our only chains - no one else has the power to bind.

Love as the Ultimate Hypnosis

However, there exists a practical influence used daily on millions of people - one that truly wins hearts. This influence is love and sacrifice. This approach is irrefutable. There is not a single living creature that doesn’t respond to genuine love and kindness.

He who has true love for someone meets them without any doubt. If there’s genuine love in your heart, influencing others positively isn’t difficult. Even animals and birds respond to love and kindness.

The Difference Between Manipulation and Magnetism

Manipulation seeks to control others for personal benefit. It uses deception, pressure, or force. Even when temporarily successful, it creates resentment and eventual rebellion.

Magnetism naturally attracts others through positive qualities. It serves others' highest good while creating mutual benefit. People feel genuinely better after interacting with magnetic individuals.

A person controlled by manipulation acts against their will, becoming unintelligent and losing their inner cooperation. Even if they comply outwardly, their heart remains unconvinced.

But someone influenced by love responds from their own free will. They feel inspired, uplifted, and grateful. The influence serves their growth and happiness, not just the influencer’s desires.

The Five Pillars of Natural Influence

To develop ethical influence over others, you must first cultivate five essential qualities within yourself. These create the foundation for all positive interactions.

1. Vibrant Health

Your energy is your foundation. When you’re truly healthy, you radiate natural charm regardless of physical features. Poor health shows in pale skin and tired eyes. Excellent health creates an attractive energy field around you. Four simple guidelines:

Only eat when hungry
Don’t eat just for taste
Never overeat
Chew food thoroughly

2. Genuine Cheerfulness

A real smile is like a blooming flower—it draws everyone’s attention effortlessly. When you laugh authentically, people gather around you like bees to nectar.

If you argued with someone today, greet them tomorrow with a warm smile. All conflict vanishes instantly.

Complainers drive people away. But authentic joy is magnetic. You don’t need perfect features—just smile genuinely, and flowers will seem to fall from your mouth.

3. Pure Intentions

Good thoughts create an invisible atmosphere around you. History shows us Buddha’s would-be assassin dropping his weapon when he felt the Master’s presence. Wild animals never harmed Swami Ramatirtha during his forest walks. Your thoughts have real power. Constant loving intentions attract goodwill from all directions. High aims and pure hearts find success at every step.

4. Kind Words

Sweet speech is the most transformative force available. Kind words trigger bonding hormones in both speaker and listener. Harsh words activate stress responses and shut down openness.

Tone matters more than words. You can say “thank you” like criticism or give feedback that feels like love. Choose your words like you’re offering gifts.

5. True Generosity

Authentic generosity creates unbreakable bonds. When you truly help someone, they remember forever. But this isn’t about expecting returns—give freely and watch the world multiply your gifts.

Ask yourself daily: “Who can I help? What can I give?” This shift from getting to giving transforms your entire presence.

Remember: What You Sow, You Reap

The deepest form of influence isn’t about trying to trick or control someone. It’s about pure love and compassion. This is what ancient texts call true “Vashikaran” – the art of attraction and winning hearts.

If you have true love in your heart, influencing others isn’t hard at all. Even animals respond to real kindness. A true friend doesn’t want to take from their loved one; they want to give. When you develop deep compassion, your heart feels the pain of others, and you want to help. This isn’t weakness; it’s the strongest force in the world.

Most people who want to “influence others” think about it for selfish reasons – to get something for themselves. But this kind of influence never lasts.

The wise person knows that real influence comes from having a pure heart. When you let go of selfish desires, true love fills you, and this love naturally draws others to you without any effort. What you give out to the world, in your thoughts, words, and actions, is exactly what you get back from it.

Ethical Boundaries and Responsibilities

With influence comes responsibility. You can help people access their own wisdom and strength, but you cannot force anyone to act against their will. Never use these techniques to:

Manipulate romantic relationships
Create financial advantage
Control others' major decisions

Some people aren’t ready for change due to mental illness, addiction, or trauma. Know when to refer someone to professional help.

The Dangers of Misuse

History provides sobering examples of charismatic individuals who misused influence for selfish purposes. These stories teach important lessons about the corrupting potential of power.

Historical Examples

Figures like Rasputin possessed genuine hypnotic abilities but used them for personal gain, sexual gratification, and political manipulation. His temporary influence over the Russian royal family contributed to political instability and ultimately his own destruction.

Even well-intentioned therapists or spiritual teachers can cause harm when they exceed their competence, develop inappropriate relationships with clients, or allow their personal issues to contaminate their work.

Why Selfish Motives Destroy Hypnotic Power

The universe seems to have built-in safeguards against the misuse of influence. People with purely selfish motives rarely maintain genuine power for long.

Selfish intentions create internal conflict that undermines natural charisma and influence. Others unconsciously sense the underlying manipulation and gradually withdraw their trust.

Those who gain temporary influence through manipulation often become paranoid, isolated, and ultimately self-destructive. The very power they sought becomes their prison.

The Consequences of Manipulation

What you do to others eventually returns to you, often amplified. Those who manipulate others often find themselves being manipulated by those even more skilled or unscrupulous.

People who feel they’ve been manipulated rarely forget the experience. They become more resistant to future influence and often warn others about the manipulator.

The internal cost of manipulation is enormous. Living in deception, constantly calculating advantage, and treating others as objects rather than fellow beings creates deep spiritual and psychological damage.

Your Journey Forward

Start by honestly assessing yourself in the five pillars. Where are you strongest? Where do you need growth?

Choose one area to focus on each month. Make specific, small changes rather than vague promises. Find accountability partners who support your growth.

Measure progress by the quality of your relationships, not by getting what you want. Look for signs that people feel safer and more empowered after being with you.

The Real Secret

When you master the art of transforming yourself into your highest self, you automatically inspire others to become their best selves. This is the only hypnosis worth learning.

Saint Kabir wrote:“The path to the beloved is easy - your walking is crooked."

The world needs people who understand that true influence serves others' growth, not personal agenda. Whether in relationships, work, or community, you can be part of humanity’s healing.

This is your invitation to the most important journey: becoming someone whose presence makes the world brighter and kinder. This is how you truly hypnotize people—by first letting yourself be hypnotized by love. What you give to the world in thoughts, words, and actions is exactly what you get back.