9 Relationship Management Advice from Experts

Our existence is the summation of our relationships.

Relationships not just with people, but with self, with surroundings, with ecology, with art forms, with concepts, faiths, and even theories.

Freud’s work on psychosexual development mentions that the behavior of an individual is a reflection of how (s)he was treaded during the phallic stage. The treatment patterns experienced by the individual during 3 - 5 years of age both positive and negative find their reflection throughout life.

If one’s seen manipulation happening all around, he or she is highly likely to practice it.

If someone’s experienced jealousy in the minds of the adults around, they may probably act in the same manner.

Barring a few exceptions, an evident trend can be spotted.

Relationships without, are a reflection of relationships within.

The question then arises :

  • Can the chemistry we exhibit be altered?

  • Can the quality of our existence be improved?

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As we did with journalling, where we reached out to experts for insights on how to write the daily journal and art of journaling.

In this edition, we reached out to experts on their advice on relationship management. Turns out that if we keep certain aspects in our mind, fiascos can be avoided.

Let’s hear from the horse’s mouth.

“Relationship between two individuals can take many forms in different contexts. The intimacy between a parent and a child, the sensuality between two beloveds, the respect between two colleagues, the camaraderie between two friends on and forth.

Relationships are based on intense emotions.

Experiencing a relationship in its full potential requires a very deep understanding of the emotions involved.

The first and foremost way to do so is to show up and be available. Relationships happen between two persons. How will it move forward if one or the other is resisting or absent?

Second, always use clear communication. Be it your boundaries or your needs, unspoken expectation works against the relationship.

Clearly state your perspective.

Third, Meet your partner where the person is. It doesn’t mean you have to agree always but even when you are disagreeing, you can still respect your differences and be in a relationship.

A relationship is not a shackle, it is the road that makes your journey through life an enjoyable experience. It is the base of your lived experience and your worldview. The more you value it and act accordingly the more it will reward you.”

- Tanusree Mustafi

“Managing a relationship between two individuals is becoming a lot more complex in this ever-connected environment. A positive relationship usually has the following elements:

  1. Trust
  2. Respect
  3. Awareness
  4. Good communication
  5. Shared experiences

Sometimes, we naturally know who we can trust and relationships form organically. In other cases, it helps to share experiences that make us feel vulnerable to have a richer relationship.

It is not about the hours you spend with the person, it is about how safe you both feel with each other. If this is a relationship based on hierarchy or control, needless to say, it may be superficial.

If you want to form a genuine relationship with another person, you have to ensure that you become trustable. When two people can relax, and know that things are taken care of, they can give their love more easily and abundantly.”

- Vinay Nair

“The moment you try to manage any relationship, the chances of them getting compromised are higher & that could lead to disappointment and heartbreak.

Try not to manage a relationship rather enjoy being in the relationship. Communicate without compromising on your personality or your character. Be a little more understanding than the other & accepting the person with his/her flaws.”

- Priti Thakkar

“In any relationship Active listening is Key. What that means is to listen without judgment. It’s easier said than done. It is very difficult to listen without reacting to what is being said to us, since we are emotionally attached to the conversation. At times we need to take a third-person approach to our own situation and try to put in the effort to listen from a neutral standpoint.”

One thing to avoid in relationships is mind reading. I think we are all guilty of making assumptions and sadly that is what lands us into trouble. We do not have superpowers, we do not know what the other person is thinking, feeling or what they are going to do.

Hence it is very important to ask questions and understand what the other person is experiencing, instead of trying to predict or guess the intentions."

- Tina Mistry

“According to me, we should be well aware of our partner’s expectations. It is important to discuss, dwell. and dig into the expectations, goals, plans of the other person. These are the things that impact relationships later.

The one thing that people should avoid in a relationship is that they
should not hide anything from their partners, in a while trust issues start to develop and leads to rifts.” - Neha Kaushik

“The one must DO in relationship management is allowing time and space so that the individual has some breathing space and my time. Each person is unique and comes with his / her flavors and goodness. The one thing to avoid in any relationship is to force a change upon the person.”

- Aakansha Sharma

“Learn and tend to each other’s love language. Listen twice as much as you speak.”

“Don’t go to sleep on an argument, always take responsibility and apologize when your behavior is unacceptable.”

- Rachel Gregory

“Relationships are fragile and need constant work. With the influence of social media and the internet in our everyday lives, the impact it has on relationships is brutal.

So, one thing to do in relationships would be to continue to go on dates despite the longevity of the relationship (especially after marriage).

When you make time for each other, let it be minus your phones so that you can focus on each other.”

- Sharon Uthappa

“Communication is important in terms of relationship management. If the two partners can openly communicate and express their thoughts and feelings, it helps tremendously.

When in a relationship one must not hope or expect to be able to change the person.”

- Abia Hashmi

That’s all in this edition.

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